| February 14th, 2018
Back to “B.A.E.sics”
By: journeymagazine
Back to “B.A.E.sics”
By| Blaire Bishop
Adrianne Gurley, a physical therapist, motivational speaker and relater, met her soulmate at FAMU but it wasn’t until social media when she started to interact with her husband. Dr. Marcus Gurley, a pharmacist, motivational speaker, business owner and relerter who found his wonderful wife at FAMU after realizing a couple years later she was the one.
The christian couple was brought back to FAMU by Pinky Promise Organization as a guest speaker for their February series every Tuesday of back to the B.A.Esics in honor of Valentine’s Day.
Dr. Gurley poses the first question of “do you love yourself?” He was expecting a real answer but of course everyone agreed to loving there self. He goes on to make his point,
“You can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself first. You have to start with the basics which is loving yourself.” said Gurley
Mrs. Gurley pointed out some insecurities and some examples she had herself. When she was in undergrad she was more so on the heavy side. She then realized she wanted to lose weight, get in shape and feel comfortable with herself in which resulted in her losing 65 pounds. Mrs. Gurley expressed how important it is to love yourself and who you are.
“ If you are aware of your insecurities, then they can’t hurt. I inspire you to look at what God says about you”said Mrs. Gurley
Adrianna and Marcues kept in touch through Facebook after college. With all of the self love Andrianna has gained, she feels confident in reaching out to Marcus for social conversation. Marcus posted a bible verse challenge where Adrianna joined the trial and shared the post. She explained how it ministered to her which resulted in Marcus in her Inbox (DM).
Dr. Gurley expressed to the audience the importance of being mindful of what you put on the media because you are representing yourself. He then explains the significance of selecting your role models in relationships because many people look up to social media couples for goals but in reality those things are just for show. He continued, keeping in mind social media is just that, — to be social. Everyone is not happy, people only see what they allow you to.
“Just because you have a wedding ring doesn’t mean you are in a marriage, just because you have a wedding ring do not mean he/she loves you, and just because you have a wedding ring do not mean your in a faithful and happy marriage.” said Dr. Gurley.
Andrianna sparked a conversation between Marcus and herself, after chatting for a while to get somethings off her chest. She explained, before they go any further she wants her next relationship to honor God in which she won’t participate in having sex before marriage. Once Marcus heard that, he immediately knew she was sent from God because he had the same thought in mind.
“We honored God by spending nine months of courting which is one of the biggest blessing we can demonstrate,” said Adrianna. Marcus added “In the end it was all worth it, we’ve been married for one year and two mouths now.”
The couple introduce the differences between courting and dating. Courting is when you are honoring God and getting to know each other without sex before marriage. Dating is when you are talking to one or multiple people and doing your own thing of “going with the flow”.
“Was it hard to learn to get to know each through long distance and stay committed to courting?” Michelle “Marva” Johnson, the current Miss. FAMU posed the question to the couple. “It was definitely a challenge but we both knew what we wanted. Communication was the main thing we had which helped grow us stronger.” Said Andrianna Gurley.
Relationships can be as beautiful as the sky and sometimes it can get ugly as the rain; but it is up to you to create the rainbow. Remember to start with the B.A.Esics which is loving yourself.
